Systemic Coaching for the Heart and Mind
“Often, The Best Things In Life Can’t Be Defined, Only Experienced” – Zita
Much of personal development focuses on effort — learning more, doing more, trying harder.
My work sits at a later point in the journey. It is concerned with understanding where movement is already possible within a person or a system, and how a precise intervention can restore flow without force.
Drawing on systemic constellations, coaching, transgenerational trauma-informed practice, and ancestral knowledge, I work with individuals and groups who sense that insight alone is no longer enough, and that something quieter — yet more exact — is now required.
Life Therapy is designed to support you to flourish and thrive in a way that is appropriate for you.
Zita Tulyahikayo is a Systemic Constellations facilitator, teacher and coach, with over 20 years’ experience working with individuals, couples, families and organisations.
She is often described as a “wise speaker of truth” — known for her ability to bring clarity to what is difficult to face, and to guide people through it with precision, depth and care.
Her work focuses on transgenerational trauma, relationships, and the hidden dynamics that shape our lives. Through facilitation, coaching and teaching, Zita supports clients to move beyond repeating patterns and into a more grounded, peaceful and empowered way of being.
In addition to her private and group work, Zita teaches internationally and offers supervision to practitioners and professionals seeking to deepen their systemic understanding and practice.
Her approach is direct, compassionate and effective — not focused on quick fixes, but on lasting change that ripples through individuals, families and future generations.
Zita is part of the visiting faculty at the Centre for Systemic Constellations in the UK, where she contributes to the training and development of practitioners. She also serves on the faculty at the Esalen Institute in California, supporting the continued evolution of systemic work within an international context.
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