Transformation : a complete or major change in someone’s or something’s appearance, form, self etc.

At this time in humanity’s development many people are experiencing dislocation and confusion about their roles in society, their family and even themselves. To them it may appear that their former roles, values, and relationships are no longer valid. They question the purpose of their lives and everything that once had meaning for them.

What I am referring to is more than a mid-life crisis, such thoughts and feelings may occur at any age from a teenager to a senior citizen. It may start suddenly with the onset of a life threatening illness, or it may be a gradual disenchantment with society’s values by someone who “has it all.” Individuals may be uninterested in topics relating to mental and emotional well being and still encounter this process because all people are physical, emotional, mental, whether they are consciously aware of it or not. Therefore, this experience may arise both in the life of someone who meditates and goes on retreats, or with someone who does not. It is not our personality that determines the timing of our desire for transformation, that call comes from a far deeper place within ourselves. It is a call that will not go away if we try to ignore it, that part of ourselves is far too intelligent to allow that to happen. Our unconscious mind will simply find ways, usually through hidden thought processes to create experiences in our lives to let us know something needs to be acknowledged.

If you are going through a transformation it might feel as if you are losing control of your life, and perhaps even questioning your identity. This feeling, is just your personality’s fear of losing control. In actuality it is an indication of strength and emotional maturity when a person experiences this kind of shift.

In many cultures and religions references are made to this process. In the old testament of the Bible it is referred to as the dark night of the soul. In ancient Greece, Egypt, India and other cultures there were schools of wisdom which helped individuals through this experience. These individuals were taken into seclusion and taught what was referred to as the inner mysteries. Now, it is perfectly normal and acceptable in most of the western world that people will seek out some kind of talking therapy. England is the only country that has been slow to embrace this mature approach to our mental and emotional well-being, and as individuals and families we suffer greatly for it.

We still have very limited means by which people can find and receive the support they need when they enter this phase of their life. Friends and family are wonderful, however even their best intentions can be detrimental as they fear for our well-being and maintaining the status quo. Very few people think it a luxury to quit their job and go off to an ashram in India to meditate and find themselves. Nor is that necessary. None of us are given more than we can handle. When your unconscious mind starts the process of transformation you are are set up to succeed. Nobody wins if you fail and deep down you know that, even if you struggle consciously to believe it. This means that if you are married, have children, have a nine to five job you can do this and still succeed. This is also true if you are divorced, do not get on with your children, and have just been fired from your job. Sometimes we experience painful and difficult things in our life to encourage us to reach for a better understanding about what within us is really out of alignment. If we take heart and look within ourselves and around ourselves with compassion and care we may find that we were sabotaging our own ability to live a harmonious life.

The numbers of people undergoing this kind of transformation are increasing daily. This is obvious from the chronic low grade depression we sense in people around the world. More than ever before talk of depression and mental health graces our news stories and daily conversations. It does not make sense that people in the developed world who have lovely homes, jobs, cars and the opportunity to buy whatever they want with the swipe of a finger would feel depressed – unless another reason for their depression exists aside from satisfying their material and physical needs. There is a hunger emerging in people in the western world who have strengthened their personality and fed it everything it wishes. No amount of possessions, relationships, or status will fill this hunger. This is the call from our unconscious mind that it needs something more than we are currently feeding it. The only way left to find out what will satisfy us is to look compassionately within.

It is in our nature to evolve, we have been doing it since the moment we were conceived. The only way that we ever hinder our evolution is to keep ourselves closed. And what closes us? Fear is what closes us; fear that we will not have enough, fear that we will not be looked after, fear that we will not be loved, fear that we will not be smart enough, fear that we will be excluded. Fear that we will undergo a scarcity of something, that we will not receive whatever the goodies are that others are getting. Fear combined with a lack of trust makes it difficult to commit to doing what you really want. Fear, an immature emotional response, shuts us down and closes us off from experiencing lasting love, abundance and prosperity in our lives.

Thankfully there is a way around all of that, I call it the Abundance Principle, it quite simply allows you to find a way to live a life without being crippled by fear. Yes, even your smoking habit is a form of fear. Excess over-weight and underweight those are also expressions of a mind in fear. Debt is fear, divorce, that too is ultimately about fear. It may be something different for each person, we tend to be unique that way, but whatever it is fear is the underlying cause.

The question is: what are you really afraid of? and if it is not you who did you learn or inherit your fear from? In all honesty, if it is not your fear then the polite thing to do is to give it back to who ever you got it from and let them deal with it. What ever it is Life Therapy with Zita can give you the support you need to transform your life. Just ask me how.

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