“… and the more hurt she gets, the more venomous she grows.” – Emily Brontë, Wuthering Heights
7 Issues from Childhood that Affect our Relationships Later on in Life.
1. Threats and fear of abandonment. These can lead to jealousy and feelings of insecurity.
2. Lack of emotional nurturing. This can lead to feelings of emotional deprivation – which can feel like a bottomless pit to fill.
3. Growing up with feelings of entitlement. This can lead to feeling as if you are superior to everyone else.
4. Being told that you are inferior or inadequate. This causes you feel like you are never good enough.
5. The demand to be perfect and to always get things right. This can lead to being driven – and setting yourself incredibly high, and ultimately unachievable standards.
6. Being betrayed by those you trusted – so you won’t trust now, and you can’t get close to others, or let them get close to you.
7. Being raised in a way that your needs were denied, not allowed, disregarded, trivialised or ignored. This can lead to a doormat type of personality where other people matter – and your needs never count.