Low self-esteem is sadly far more common than we often realise. It is the main reason why so many people struggle to accept that they are already amazing. They just don’t really believe it. Everyday I see clients for whom low self esteem lies at the root of their troubles. I am not saying that your life will ever be trouble free, however, there is a difference in how one can manage life’s challenges when they occur. Low self esteem affects people from all walks of life, in fact some of the most successful people in entertainment, business, politics and highly skilled professionals are affected by it. Although self esteem is not a condition in and of itself, if it goes unchecked it can lead to more serious problems that can have a detrimental effect on the quality of your life and a negative impact on your relationships. Anxiety, Depression, Bi-Polar Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorders, Paranoia, excessive Alcohol and Drug use are just a few of the more serious side effects of low self esteem left unchecked.
The Life Therapy approach to healing offers a simple and highly effective remedy to address low self esteem; which can often be an inherited pattern of behaviour that has been in your family for generations. When we are caught up in a trans-generational cycle of behaviour not only is recognising it difficult, it is also harder to leave it behind as we are all immensely loyal to our family of origin. So many people struggle to do better than their parents did. Even if they seemingly have a better quality of life superficially, they will struggle to be happier emotionally and spiritually.
In just one Life Therapy session a dramatic shift in self perception can occur, the relief is palpable and rewarding. Your life is supposed to be a fun and joyful experience. If you struggle with low self esteem it may be hard for you to believe that you do deserve to live a wonderful life simply because it will be hard for you to see how your perception of yourself is interfering with the quality of your life.
To believe that you are amazing is not a sign of arrogance it is a very healthy sign of genuine humility.
Symptoms of low self esteem.
Below is a list of symptoms that are commonly found amongst people who are affected by low self esteem. If you are affected by one or more of these symptoms please feel free to contact me. I am here to support you.
1. Social withdrawal
2. Anxiety and emotional turmoil
3. Lack of social skills and self confidence,
4. Depression and bouts of sadness
5. Issues with social conformity
6. Eating disorders
7. Inability to accept compliments
8. An inability to see yourself “impartially” – to be fair to yourself
9. Accentuating the negative
10. Exaggerated concern over what you think other people think
11. Self neglect
12. Treating yourself badly, but not other people
13. Reluctance to take on challenges
14. Reluctance to put yourself first – or anywhere
15. Reluctance to trust your own opinion and or express it
16. Expecting little out of life for yourself
How to be Amazing: The Basics.
Here are a few really simple and effective tips to get the ball rolling and get your self esteem climbing up the charts.
- Make a list of 25 things you like about yourself. Keep going 50 is the healthy target you want to reach.
- Make a list of 5 of your unique qualities.
- Make a list of the people you admire the most and the qualities you like in them. We see in other people qualities we either posses already or that are waiting to be explored and developed within us.
- Spring clean the people you spend time with. Socialising is good, it creates a sense of belonging, belonging helps us feel more confident and secure, however who or what you choose to belong to will have an impact on the quality of your life. Spend time with people who are happy and confident. Confidence is contagious. You will also find that confident people are more inclined to do things that support maintaining great self esteem and valuing themselves and they are happy to share love and joy with others.
- Make time to do the things you love.
- Practise kindness and compassion. When you are kind to others and seek to find the best in them it will automatically make you feel better about yourself.
- Practise self-hypnosis, create images in your mind of a version of yourself that you love, that makes you smile and feel good. This is the most powerful one of all. Practise this one everyday until it becomes your reality.
- Wake up. Be Amazing. Go to Sleep. Lather, rinse, repeat.
If you would like to book a session to learn self-hypnosis please contact me.