“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Rumi
February is here! A collective sigh of relief as New Years resolutions have been left along Give Up Highway. February brings the promise of slightly brighter days. February is popular mostly because it features Valentine’s Day a chance to celebrate love, renew vows and declare our undying devotion to those partners who have been in our lives for many years loving us persistently and consistently. For just as many though Valentine’s Day can be a cause for misery and distress. Perhaps their marriage has recently ended or a long term partnership is sagging in the winds of time or maybe you just have not met that special someone yet, and are wondering if you ever will. If you are part of the latter group there is hope, don’t give up!
The greatest cure all for a lack of joy and abundance in your love life can be remedied by the sister of love, Forgiveness. Forgiveness has the power to heal your life in more ways than you can imagine. Without forgiveness the flow of love is interrupted and when love stops moving, pretty soon everything stagnates, leaving you feeling low depressed and disheartened. With this in mind it seemed natural to introduce Forgiveness February as part of the healing you can introduce into your life to make this year not just different to the one before, but also better. If you are really willing to pull the stops out and create positive change in your life, you might even find that this is the year you rediscover bliss. Everyone deserves bliss and it is possible to achieve it with a shift in perspective.
It is empowering when you reach a place of offering genuine compassion to those who have wronged you. If you allow anger towards another to fester, it will end up eating away at you and taking the shine out of your potential to experience real joy in your life. When you are angry with another person, it does not harm them, it causes the greatest harm to you. Forgiving someone who has wronged you does not mean that you have to condone what they have done to you. It does give you peace, and there are only a few things in life that can give you that kind of true, lasting peace.
Forgiveness simply means accepting the other person as they are. Forgiveness means that you are not judging the other person, that you are non-judgemental. Why is this important? How you judge others is how you judge yourself, when this compassion to others is missing it means that you are unable to be compassionate towards yourself and that inevitably causes you to suffer. Traditionally we think that forgiveness means you know that the other person has done wrong and you decide to forgive them. First you judge and then you forgive. This approach essentially makes the forgiveness false. The truth is that real forgiveness has no judgement. Real forgiveness simply accepts the other person as they are. There is no complaint, no grumbling, there is no anger. Now, you may or may not agree with this idea, that is your prerogative. However, if it is your intention to experience joy in your life, to free yourself of negative emotional entanglements, then this is the only course of action that will get you there. It is human to make mistakes and it is human to forgive. The struggle for many people starts when they assume otherwise. A person experiences a certain richness in their life when they can learn to enjoy forgiveness, when they can learn to ask for an apology or even better when an apology can be humbly given without asking for it. “I am sorry, I was wrong’” is a powerful statement for the giver and the receiver.
Love knows how to forgive. It is not only important to know how to forgive others it is just as important to forgive oneself too! So many people struggle in their lives every day because they really struggle to forgive themselves. We are constantly taught to judge ourselves, often quite harshly. We are taught to feel guilty. Guilt is a terrible burden for anyone to carry. Guilt has the power to rob us of all joy and will eventually lead to all manner of ills, some conscious, many unconscious, whether that is a loss of wealth, the loss of a relationship, the loss of being at peace with oneself or even physical ailments, chronic disease and depression.
So, Forgiveness February comes with the impetus to create change, a chance to heal the past by forgiving others and more importantly to forgive yourself. From here there is the chance for great love to arise, forgiveness of oneself enhances your capacity to love yourself. Self love is important for the simple reason that love grows and improves everything. Self love allows the seeds of new beginnings to take root, flourish and grow. The dis-ease of pain and suffering, addictions and unhealthy dependency is no longer part of your life, they become irrelevant because you simply do not have a want or need for them. Over-eating, alcohol abuse, recreational drug use, low self worth and a poverty or victim mentality lose their appeal. There is simply no room for that kind of thinking in a person that loves themselves. And amazingly you actually become more interesting, loveable and a joy to be around. So you see compassion to self, forgiveness of self, love of self is the path to living a happier healthier, successful life.
If you are interested in improving your life and are not quite sure where to start, if you are struggling with weight issues, stressed out, struggling financially or experiencing difficulties in your relationships then there is a way to start to address those issues at their foundation and bring your whole life into balance. Life Therapy with Zita takes a unique approach, one that assures success if success is what you really want. It is a much more enjoyable way to live your life when you experience good health, wealth and peace of mind. Happiness creates more happiness…
So now that you are done with the old fashioned, inadequate and inefficient method of making resolutions, why not try something different. After all insanity is doing the same thing year in year out and expecting a different outcome. Let Forgiveness February be the month you really truly fall in love. Fall in love with yourself. Forgive yourself, heal yourself and see how wonderful life can really be. Life is supposed to fun, it is supposed to be amazing and beautiful. It is up to you, if you want that kind of life LifeTherapy can support you in creating that change. For more information call or email. Contact
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